Be a lady and Be independent. Be a lady means don't allow yourself to be overcome by useless emotions like anger, and by independent, she meant it would be fine if you met a prince-charming and live happily ever after, but be able to fend for yourself.
“But I ask no favors for my sex... All I ask of our brethren is, that they will take their feet from off our necks, and permit us to stand upright …”—Sarah Grimké.